PASTOR'S PAGE MAY 2023 MESSENGER
May 1, 2023 The Messenger – From Our Pastor
“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak.” James 1:19
There is an old familiar story about a man who told something terrible about his neighbor. The rumor spread around town as one person told another and the neighbor’s reputation was ruined. Eventually the rumor was proved to be untrue. The man who started the rumor felt terrible for spreading false gossip. So he visited his priest and the priest gave him these odd instructions: “Take a bag filled with feathers to the top of the church bell tower and let them go. Then come back to me.” When the man returned with the empty bag, the priest told him. “Now take your bag outside and collect all the feathers.” The man replied, “But that is impossible, the wind blew the feathers all over the town and I will never be able to find them all.” The priest said, “My son, that’s how it is with careless words. Once spoken, they cannot be taken back. Jesus will forgive what you said, but the damage has already been done.”
That’s how it is with every rumor or juicy piece of gossip. “Have you heard what Tom did?” “I hear Britany and Jeremy are separating, can you believe it?” “Did you know Ashley is losing her kids?” And on it goes. Sometimes, the story is a total lie. At other times, we only know half the narrative and the complete story changes the whole picture. Occasionally we add our own little twist to the story. But regardless of how you repeat it, the damage is done and another person’s reputation was harmed.
But there’s an easy cure; James challenges you to be slow to speak. One way to do that is to THINK before you speak. And there’s a great little acronym which gives you questions to ask before you pass on any story:
T – Is it True?
H – Is it Helpful?
I – Is it Inspiring?
N – Is it Necessary?
K – Is it Kind?
If you can’t answer all five questions with a yes, then the story isn’t worth repeating. So, the next time you hear a story, be slow to speak and think because once you say your words, they cannot be taken back.
In Christ’s Love, Pastor Steve